Someone asked me to write about “Midlife Crisis”. She seemed to be worried and concerned about her life after she is done raising her children.
I have looked up “Midlife Crisis” and learned three big elements from it. The first one is regarding changes of the body, the second one is about finishing raising children and the third one is about changes at work.
The first one, changes in body, is your body changing to the next step. And you cannot accept it. For example, menopause disorder for women. Some women experience early and for a long time. It is all depends on the individual. The second one, finishing rising children, is people who spend so much time on raising their children, and now they don’t need to do so anymore, have so much empty time. And maybe they feel lonely as it is all gone. The third one, at work, you may have more responsibility at work or you feel like a fool for taking the job seriously?
I do not think these elements are separate problems. All of these are the result of you not living “As Is”. For more detail please read “Story of Live As Is”.
I do not think these elements are separate problems. All of these are the result of you not living “As Is”. For more detail please read “Story of Live As Is”.
The second element of raising children, If your life was all about raising children, you will be shocked and lost when you are done raising them. Don’t be shocked. Your children grew so big and you are done raising them. It is a happy thing. What would you like to do now? If you cannot find something why don’t you do something that you could not do with your wife/husband. If you have so many things you want to do, why don’t you just pick one and start it?
Physical changes, If you were living “As Is”, you would not feel “Oh my body is so different from when I was young, what shall I do? . However, if you accept your body changes as is, you will not have a problem. There is no “Healthy and Young Forever”. It is natural to become old and you will learn a different topic with your aging. You will learn for the first time with your aged body which you could not learn when you were young.
Worries and concerns at work, you may have stress by having more responsible work? Or stress from not being promoted like your colleagues? I am not sure about this as I am not working for a company.
However, my husband told me that many men around this age wake up one morning and feel depressed and frustrated by questioning if his life so far was good and why is it they have not achieved the level of success they had envisioned when they were young.
I think “Midlife Crisis” is like a report card. If people were living your life truly and not shaken, I don’t think they worry with what’s happening. Because they always had themselves and they could deal with everything that may occur. I think you feel empty because you have been focusing on the wrong things and trying to live an imagined life rather than your life “as is”.
You cannot change what you’ve already done. But you can change from this point on. What about changing from now by not worrying, comparing nor depending? You can change from today. Why don’t you change your life a good one from today? Why don’t you deal seriously with whatever come to your mind? By doing this, you will see the next step. Your problems will not solve by just worrying about it, make an action.